What do you do when someone in your extended family, but you aren’t close with, begins/continues their battle with stage four cancer?
I’m struggling with knowing what the right thing to do is, how to respond, how to feel sad. I can’t sympathize with those close to them. I’m not close enough to reach out to this person directly, leaving me in a place of wanting to do whatever I can to help, but feeling incapable. The last thing they need right now is someone they don’t really care to hear from, bothering them to remind them of just how sick they are. I don’t want to be that person who starts their note “I know it’s been a long time…” because quite honestly I know this person doesn’t want to hear from me. They want to be with the people who mean the most to them and that isn’t me — and that’s okay. Our relationship is what it is for a multitude of reasons.
Thanks to the internet I’ve been able to donate money, but that’s where it begins and ends. I didn’t even know what to write on the e-card, so I left it blank. I know it sounds really careless and a bit cold, but I think it’s worse to say something, pretending we’re closer than we are. For instance, even a heart emoji feels oddly intimate — but —
Now I have a feeling of sadness I can’t shake.